What Do I Mean By Going Deeper?

Recently a friend and colleague asked me to clarify what I mean when I tell clients and students to ‘go deeper’. “Janet,” she said, “that has different meanings and can mean different things to different people. What do you mean by it?”.

So I did a Facebook Live and did a deep dive into what ‘going deeper’ means to me. You can watch it here.

A brief synopsis of what I covered:

  • Going deeper starts with yourself, not the other

  • It is imperative you know the lens through which you look at and experience the world

  • What I mean by a lens

  • Common lenses

  • Why knowing your unique, individual lens is important

  • What we experience when we don’t know our individual lens

Not knowing our unique lens can leave us feeling unsettled, blown in the wind. And that can leave us feeling worn and exhausted! We question ourselves, begin to doubt ourselves and can find ourselves feeling guilty because what worked for the guru-of-the-moment, or the advice on a meme or what worked for Joe or Sally is not working for us.  

Who needs that crap???

If you don’t know your personal lens, there’s nothing wrong with you. You just need to discover the lens that works for you.

Sure, some of this work can most certainly be done on your own, but think about this: right relationship is not meant to be done solo, but in community. Besides that if you knew what to do, wouldn’t you would have done it already? 

This is something I can help you with. Why not set up a 30 minute discovery call? No pressure, just a chance to get to know each other better and explore what might be possible. Click the button to get started!

We’re In This Together,

Janet