The Gift That Keeps On Giving: Being In Community


Before I dive into animals, right relationship and all that good stuff I tend to talk about, I want to take the opportunity to invite you to join a community project I’ve been asked to participate in. It’s Rebel Crones Rising, a month long collective-in-the-making of 50-ish+, introverted, spiritual-journeying womxn who want what patriarchy and agism aren’t willing to give us, so we’re creating it for ourselves. It’s quite daring and innovative and frankly I find it a breath of fresh air in today’s world. You can find out about it here.

I believe the age parameter is more of the ‘ish’, than the 50, as I’m seeing womxn there who appear to be on the younger side of 50.

If this sounds like something you might find inspirational or interesting, do check it out. My presentation is scheduled for September 18 and I would love to ‘see you’ in the audience!

Anyway, I’ve been observing how this project is structured. It’s all about community, being in community, creating and tending community. My mind naturally led me to thinking about right relationship, which then naturally led me to thinking about our relationship with animals. I mean, it doesn’t need to be a gathering of people to make up a community, does it?

We need to be in community with our beyond-human kin at least as much as we are in community with other humans.

Now To The Gist Of This Post

After having gushed about community building above, this next statement may sound contradictory, but it’s not. Think about liked-minded spirits, birds of a feather, kindred spirits, etc.

It’s not just about you. Relationship is a mutual agreement, meaning both parties agree to the reciprocal definition of that particular relationship. Respecting an animal’s agency to say ‘no’ is a GINORMOUS step in building right relationship! That may be a new contradictory thought to take in and live with, as we humans do tend to play the “I’m the human card” a lot, even if unconsciously. But let me tell you, it’s not. It’s a foundational building block when it comes to right relationship.

Once there’s a mutual agreement……

Recognizing different elements of relationship is the backbone of connection. A mutually agreed upon relationship needs regular tending so it has the nutrients to grow into whatever it’s meant to be. Relationships differ - some are long-standing, some are short-lived; some have daily interactions, some have every once in a while interactions. The important thing is to provide that special relationship with what it needs to be.

Slowing down. This is both a radical and vital step. Because every relationship is different and has different needs, we need to slow down so we can pay full attention. This means moving away from our normal “hurry-scurry I have to do everything” mode. It needs us to allow in space, and to allow in the mystery of not-knowing. And to sit in the uncomfortableness of that so we may become comfortable.

The take-away from this? Not only do you not have to do this alone, you shouldn’t do this alone. Because it’s about community, not being a loner, right?

If you would like to chat about your own personal right relationship building journey, let’s set up a time to chat and discover how I can support you.

Remember to check out the Rebel Crones Rising when you get a chance!

We’re All In This Together,

Janet