The other day I was chatting with a long-time client and she remarked, "You know, Janet, you're always checking in with my animals and telling me what they have to say (pregnant silence), but I have to ask you this: do you communicate with your own animal family?" Very valid question, and I have to admit it took me for a loop for a couple of minutes. The reason it silenced me was because I do it so very often that I'm not aware I'm doing it, and I'm just as consciously unaware of them conversing with me. It's just the way we roll at the Roper household: we talk, we communicate, we share, we argue, we even sometimes pout, regardless of species. It's so commonplace that none of us even think twice about it!
Real Life Examples of How I Communicate with My Animals
In the picture above, you see, from left to right, cats Billy and Raven and dog Max. We've been a family for at least 7 years, so we're pretty used to each others' idiosyncrasies and mannerisms. For instance, if there's a mouse in the house, I can count on Raven to go on high alert, patrol and monitor the mouse's actions and whereabouts. Experience has taught me not to get in between Raven and his mouse.
Each one of my boys has their own special talents and gifts. I learned long ago that it works out really nicely when we build upon those natural inclinations.
Besides being the official mouser, Raven has a natural inclination to watch over everyone and oversee what's going on. That's just his personality, he likes to know everything. So when I leave the house, I ask Raven to oversee and let me know if I need to come home for any reason. This particularly sets my mind at ease as his feline brother Billy is aging and is in a fragile state.
When I am not feeling well, Raven is the one I turn to for tender loving care. I at first felt uncomfortable asking Rave for this, but he helped me realize that when I don't ask him to take care of me, I am denying him something that he not only loves to do, but considers it his responsibility.
Max is the barker, the greeter. He knows everything that is going on in the neighborhood, and then some. When I leave the house, I ask Max to bark at anything he thinks is untoward, and let it be known that the house is not empty. He takes great pride in this, and he always tells me what I missed while I was gone.
Communication with my cat Billy is extremely essential as he ages and his kidney disease progresses. Because of the steps in the house, he rarely goes places of his own accord now, I taxi him almost everywhere. I have asked Billy to let me know if it's time to visit the vet, or if it's time to make an appointment with his kineosoligist Sherri Cleveland. He is very good about doing that. When he's in the kitchen, I ask him to let me know when he's ready to be taxied upstairs. This relieves me from a lot of dithering around, wondering if I should or should not go downstairs and check on him. When he's ready, he tells me and boom! everything is taken care of as Billy wants and needs.
Ways YOU Can Communicate With Your Animal Family NOW
These are some easy and practical ways you can communicate with the non-human species in your household now. When you do this, simply ask once, don't keep asking and don't keep ruminating if it will or will not work. Remember to pay attention to any thoughts, words, pictures and feelings that come your way as you are communicating.
When you're not feeling well, ask one of your animal pals if they would be willing to give you some TLC
When you leave the house, ask someone to watch the house while you're gone. When you return, be sure to ask how things went on their watch
If you have an animal that is not feeling well, ask them to let you know what they need
How did it go for you? I truly want to know! Leave a comment and tell me of your experience. People often tell me this tiny introduction to communicating is so easy it leaves them wanting more. If that's the case with you, let’s talk and see how I can help you.
Here's To New Beginnings,